|Written by Find Inspired Talent|
|Monday, 06 May 2013 00:00|
Previously we have written about shame and what defines shame. We had an overwhelming response to our article, which lead me to the question in everyone’s mind, which is, how do you get over shame?
Shame is an emotion we experience when we feel that others, society and most critically ourselves are judging us. How do we take our power back to make this feeling of shame go away? Shame makes you feel vulnerable, exposed and it does not empower you to live your best life. So let’s unpack this a little… Shame makes you feel vulnerable and vulnerable is when we feel exposed and unable to face others or society for the fear of being judged. Being vulnerable can be very powerful, being vulnerable is being human and being human is what defines us and makes us authentic, the person we are. Only by being vulnerable and authentic can we reach the core of who we truly are. Once we know and feel that raw self - only then can we ask ourselves the question of “what makes me - me?” be real, be honest and own it.
Does an action define who I am or am I greater than my actions and mistakes? How much value do I place on other’s opinions or perceptions of me? How important are these people in my life? Asking these questions can be very powerful and might take you down a road to question the value of the relationships you have.
Realising that life is not about others but rather about you (me). I am the one that matters and I am the only one who is giving others the power over me through my thoughts. No doubt you have heard this before -- Control your thoughts and take charge of your life. A dear friend of mine’s wise words ring in my ears ‘life is meaningless until you give it meaning”. We give shame meaning by giving it the power to control our behaviour through our thoughts. Stop the thoughts and you stop the shame. Ask yourself – so what?
So how do I stop the thoughts, think the thought and then ask yourself is this factually correct? Is it true? You will find the answers surprisingly refreshing time after time. You are in control of your thoughts and therefore in control of the emotions we place to a situation or event. We define what we think and feel and to this end we define and own what we believe.
Is shame just an emotion we experience on a belief we hold of ourselves, if so then question the belief, is it true? Your answers should have no external influence or pressure – it’s all about you. There is no shame in us, only authenticity of being that which we are. So what does it matter what others think?
Go ahead be you and live your life with the meaning you want to attach to it. As my dear friend says, choose it powerfully, make it count, make it your life and own it.
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Monday, May 06, 2013
Saturday, May 04, 2013
This is a video of two persons with amazing talent, inspiring others to see what is possible. Humans have amazing abilities whose limits are yet to be found. This video will hopefully inspire all of you to seek greater challenges and discover new or existing opportunities in your lives. What you work hard at, you will succeed in. Enjoy this video and be inspired!
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Thursday, May 02, 2013
|Written by Find Inspired Talent|
|Wednesday, 01 May 2013 00:00|
“Corruption kills. It undermines human rights in every possible way and hits the poor first and hardest,” eUN Human Rights chief Navy Pillay said ahead of the Human Rights Council´s panel discussion on anti-corruption recently. Corruption is generally described as cheating, collusion, bribery or bid rigging. The 2012 corruption perception index by Transparency International ranked South Africa 69th out of 174 countries. Compared to the 2011 index this represented a worsening of the corruption level in South Africa with minus 5 places. According to Transparency International South Africa now ranks behind many of its regional neighbours, like Lesotho, Namibia, Ghana and Rwanda. Corruption and human rights are closely interlinked but the effects of corruption are often less visible and articulated than that of other crimes.
Transparency International defines corruption as “the abuse of entrusted power for private gain.” Corrupt conduct is intentional wrongdoing, not a mistake or a result of lacking attention. Every state faces corruption, but the degree to which corrupted practises infiltrate central state institutions vary across the world. Entrenched corruption features seem in South Africa to be related to a number of (combined) factors and developmental trends over the past years. Rapid economic growth, social polarization and large differences between rich and poor, political transformation and low political competition are among the explanatory factors often mentioned when explaining increased corruption in South Africa. Corruption – once allowed to grow exerts serious negative impact on society and its population.
According to Transparency International, South Africa has become increasingly corrupted during the past decade. In comparison to its score on the 2012 index, the country´s ranking in 2001 was at 38th. The many faces of corruption can for instance be seen in increased prices for public services, lowering of quality of public services and restricted access to water and electricity – overall services that often affects the poor most. While South Africa indeed has developed positively on a range of economic indicators, the country is yet to fully institutionalize a system, which could help prevent the opportunity of self-gain by powerful politicians as well as other lead actors in the country. The fundamental changes South Africa experienced following the apartheid regime, created a window of opportunity for corrupted practise. Unfortunately it has in many aspects become part of daily life.
The impact of economic crimes like corruption is not always easy to see and its victims often lack a face – and a voice. In a way, it makes corruption harder to grasp and address. ´Prove it´ corrupted leaders might say knowing it often takes years to document corrupted funds. Understanding the nature of corruption is a first step in fighting it, and while everyone pays for its consequences, it affects the poor parts of the population disproportionally. Corruption reinforces inequality, hinders economic development and thereby counteracts eradication of poverty. Corruption is a conscious act that is inherently immoral showing a lack of respect for the lives and destiny those who suffer under its consequences.
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Saturday, April 27, 2013
WORTH BLOGGING - United Nations News Centre - Kyrgyzstan must uphold its vows to protect children from sexual abuse, UN expert urges
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United Nations News Centre - Kyrgyzstan must uphold its vows to protect children from sexual abuse, UN expert urges